Why does being a wedding guest cost so much?

I don’t want to be a complete bitch with this post but there’s a little something I want to get off my chest. We all know that weddings have got a bit out of hand cost-wise but I wouldn’t say this is just for the bride and groom… It’s really expensive as a guest too.

My slightly happy, slightly peeved wedding-guest-makeup face belowūüėõ

I’ve been to a few hen-do’s now and they seem to be getting more expensive each time. The latest is going to be costing ¬£200 before I’ve even travelled there or potentially bought any necessary clothes… Which sure, it’s a weekend away with activities but ¬£200 is a lot of money to me! I’m just glad that no one has suggested travelling abroad for one yet.

Then there is buying an outfit for the wedding, which I know we don’t have to do but often ends up happening – especially with photos being posted on Facebook. I’ve bought my last two wedding guest dresses from Primark and Sainsbury’s and I’ve managed to get two wears out of each so far, so I don’t feel too resentful of this.

Alongside this is the wedding gift which is eternally awkward (I hope you enjoy that pun as much as I am right now). Obviously you have to get them something, but how much do you spend? Especially when they’re asking for cash and you can’t just choose a couple of things from the wedding list. I feel like a cheapskate but ¬£30 has tended to be my amount of choice… Is that awful?

Then there is the cost of getting to the wedding, diesel isn’t cheap after all. Also, potentially staying if it’s a long journey (or even if it’s not that far but you want to be able to have a drink or just relax without an hour drive at the end of the day), that’s easily ¬£100. Never mind that wedding venues never have cheap drinks even if you just want a diet coke – oh and it will be tiny.

I miss the days when I was a child and I didn’t have to save for other people’s weddings. Which I literally am, right now. Maybe I’m a bitch, I’m probably stingy, potentially miserable too but I just don’t earn enough to spend the ¬£600 ish I’ve spent on other people’s weddings this year. I’m pretty sure there are people out there who are struggling more than I am to afford this too. It’s lovely and amazing to be invited, but… GAH! It’s hard.

xo Fleur xo

P.S. I’ve already posted one haul and I’ll be posting another soon which seems very hypocritical after this post but having spent no money in August I did go a little wild with my Aug/Sept pay!


Autumn Haul

At the start of Autumn I was feeling a little excited for the change in season but very unenthusiastic about changing my makeup up. I wanted to just continue wearing spring/summer makeup. Which I definitely could have done but I usually really enjoy mixing it up and I had got into a bit of a rut with my makeup choices.

So, I was looking to buy some new makeup items to inspire me! I was mainly on the look out for a teal lipshade that I could pair with orange eye makeup. I want to be a pumpkin already! When I saw the LA Splash lipstick I knew I had to buy it and then with shipping being free with a little extra spent… you know how it goes. How cute is all the packaging?

The autumnal shades ūüćā L-R: Makeup Geek Flamethrower, Tiki Hut & Cherry Cola then LA Splash Catrina.

I found the LA Splash Catrina liquid lipstick in stock on Beauty Bay¬†and it’s still in stock if you fell in love with it at first sight like I did.

Makeup Geek Blacklight isn’t particularly autumnal but I know it’s going to come into its own once winter arrives.

I also decided to support two of the awesome people I follow on Twitter. I bought the gorgeous autumnal sticker from Jem (Jem’s Journal – you can find her on Twitter here, she’s amazing) – they’re too pretty to use though!

The quote print is from Jemma (her Etsy is Dorkface Shop which you can find here). I’m hoping to redecorate my study really soon, including a wall of pictures and quotes. This one being rose gold and a quote from my favourite film? It’s perfect.


I hope you enjoyed this little collective haul! I’m loving everything I bought so far, especially the liquid lipstick – it’s magical.

xo Fleur xo

Straight Hair v Curly Hair

I had a really interesting conversation the other day that ended in the ‘we’ll agree to disagree’ comment – which to me is a terrible way to end a discussion. So I thought I would continue it hereūüėõ It’s half tongue-in-cheek, half deadly serious.


This is a picture of my hair when I’ve dried it straight. Still not straight, still starting to frizz. Oh, it’s also after I’ve used four styling products including frizz easing serum to try and tame it.

The whole ‘curly haired people always want straight hair and straight haired people want curly hair’ has been a generic statement flung around my entire life. I feel like this isn’t necessarily true but everyone goes and says it anyway. On a day-today basis I’m pretty chilled about how my hair is – some of it is wavy, some curly and a few pieces are almost straight. After years of learning, I can now get it to do what I want, most of the time.

In general I’d like the straight haired gang to chill on the wanting curly hair. Apart from straight haired people who cannot physically get their hair to hold a curl – I totally get you, don’t wish for curly hair though, wish for straight hair that can hold styling. This is why:

  1. Naturally curly hair seems so unacceptable in so many situations in our society. I’m not necessarily talking the level of tamable curly I have but I feel for anyone with full curls.
  2. Do you know how much of a nightmare curly frizz is? Have you seen that episode of Friends where Monica’s hair turns into an animal? Have you tried going to a spinning class only to discover that your hair turns into a curly halo of hell sticking a metre out all round your head? Straight hair might get frizzy but it’s not a disgusting looking frizz, curly frizz looks effing gross on me.How I look after facilitating a waterbirth! #humidity:
  3. Caring for curly hair is a mission. If you want to dry it straight you’ll usually need to use a whole different set of products to if you want to dry it curly. From the shampoo up.
  4. I probably have one actually good hair day a month. I’m not even joking. It’ll usually be when I’ve heat treated the fuck out of my hair. In fact my good hair days are so rare, I can actually remember them with excitement.¬†Hahahahaha!! It feel a bit humid out here... Don't touch my hair. Seriously, it's going to frizz if you do.:
  5. The kind of curls you get when you have curly hair aren’t the beautiful big, bouncy ones. They’re the kind where it always looks a tiny bit messy. Which can be lovely but sometimes it’ll be hideous. Oh and if you try and get them to look less messy, you’ll usually ruin the curls.
  6. Every day is different. I used to wear my hair curly all the time and you just never know how it’s going to turn out. Usually it’ll be fine but sometimes… Nah.
  7. To keep the curls you either need to let your hair dry naturally, which is sometimes glorious and sometimes a frizz hell. Or you need to use a diffuser attachment – which will mean drying your hair takes roughly double the time.
  8. Even a ponytail is a mission. There is always that one bit of hair that isn’t quite straight enough and gives you that weird bumpy look. Straight haired people only seem to get that when their hair is greasy AF.
  9. Having a bad hair cut when you’ve got curly hair is so much worse. I had a hair cut that made my hair stick out at 90 degrees from my head because it was cut at just the wrong length.
  10. Don’t get me started on fringes. I had a fringe for a year, I’m never even considering it again because of the amount of effort it took every day.
  11. In fact there are so many hairstyles I’ve wanted but know I can’t have.
  12. If having curly hair was such a boon, I’m pretty sure the market for hair straighteners would be a lot less… Just saying.

All in all, yeah, I wish I had straight hair because on a day-to-day basis it would make my life so much easier and my hair would look much more attractive. The amount of time and money I could save if I had straight hair. Also, when I want curly hair… I usually curl it using a tong anyway, just like people with straight hair because you know what – it guarantees beautiful curls!

Let’s not forget how ugly I felt every single day growing up with curly hair. The day I got straighteners and could go to school with sleek, pretty hair was life changing for me. I’ve only known one person who could truly pull off her natural curls whilst looking beyond glamorous. Even then, she grew her hair longer a few years ago and spent a while looking¬†a lot more like how I feel on a daily basis.

So no, I can’t agree to disagree with straight haired people who want curly hair. You don’t know what you’re wishing for. OR go get a perm already.

xo Fleur xo


Current Favourites

Since I re-started blogging back in February I haven’t got round to doing a current favourites post, so I thought it was well beyond time that I did so. I don’t want to start doing monthly favourites posts as I don’t use enough different products / try enough new things for that to be worthwhile.

We’ll start off with the non-beauty favourites. Since I spent the entire summer reading and writing my masters project, snacks became an important part of my life. Essential even!

The¬†Candy Kittens Sweet Pineapple¬†gummy sweets are not only delicious but vegan too. Whilst I’m only a (slightly rubbish) pescatarian, I’m trying to do my best to eat only veggie/vegan sweets. So finding these ones so readily available (I know Waitrose and Sainsbury’s stock them) was amazing! They really have very little difference in consistency to regular gelatine containing sweets and the flavour is amazing. I’d highly recommend them – also from semi-regular posting about my love for them on Twitter it looks like they’re going to be releasing other vegan flavours in the near future!

The Kettle Bites Mozzarella and Pesto Lentil Curls were another Waitrose find and oh myyyyy. These are delicious, they’re apparently only 97 calories per bag and they’re full of punchy flavour.

My amazing OH bought me the little selfie ring light, he got me the one from Demetory¬†on Amazon that is ¬£15.99. It has adjustable light levels and is rechargeable using a USB. Whilst already so useful I can tell that it is going to come into it’s own for taking blog photos as autumn arrives!

So, onto the beauty favourites! Obviously the best part of any favourites post, right?

The Sleek iDivine in Oh So Special has been in constant use since I stripped my hair back to blonde in the spring. I have reviewed it here¬†and talked about my favourite eyeshadow look to create with it here. As you can see, I’ve hit pan on three of the shades now. I can’t get enough of it for creating beautiful, soft looks.

Phee’s Makeup Original Glow Highlight Powder I need to stop being such a fan girl but seriously. You can buy this for ¬£6.50 from Phee’s shop¬†(or in a compact for ¬£16) and it is just so gorgeous and pigmented. I lightly dab my brush into the pan, tap it off and I’ll have the perfect highlight – so this pan is clearly going to last forever. I also love being able to support an actual person, rather than a nameless brand.

MAC Peaches was my first ever blush and I love it just as much 10 years later as I did when I first bought it. This is a blush I will probably always own, it just works so well when I have my natural/blonde hair.

If you follow me on instagram (or just my blog tbh) you’ll know I haven’t been able to put down the NYX Macaron Lipsticks in Pistachio and Violet. They are very matte, I need to exfoliate my lips before I use them but the finish and shades are stunning. You can still find them at Boots for ¬£5.50¬†¬†and I’d say go get them before they disappear! Obviously these shades won’t be for everyone but purple lipstick is becoming more and more into the normal zone, right?

The Givenchy Noir Couture Volume Mascara in Black Taffeta¬†was a sample in a beauty box. I initially wasn’t sure about this as I found it smudged a little on my lids. However, about a week into using it, this stopped and I was able to see what a gorgeous mascara this is. At ¬£31.25 from Debenhams¬†¬†I won’t be purchasing this mascara because let’s be honest, that’s a slightly ridiculous price. It is stunning though, it gives length and volume without becoming clumpy. If it was in the ¬£20 region I would consider buying it but… If you’re a high end mascara girl, I’d 100% suggest you check this out.

Have you posted your favourites recently? I’d love your links if you have!


xo Fleur xo


FOTD: Bright Love 

I saw this Covershoot Cosmetics palette being reviewed by several people on my Twitter and insta feeds. They all said it was very reasonably priced, so I popped over to Amazon and discovered it was £2.50 with free shipping. So, of course, I bought it! It turned up faster than the estimated shipping time too.

I was so excited when it turned up because, look at it! Completely the kind of eyeshadows that make my heart sing.

I will say you get what you pay for and these aren’t the easiest shadows to use. I found patting them on my lids with my fingers the best way to get decent pigmentation. They also don’t blend out brilliantly. However, it’s six shades for ¬£2.50. From accidentally getting the purple shadow damp (damn leaky eyes) I can see these being great to use wet – so could be ideal for use as liners or dotting. I’m excited to use them again and see what else I can create – plus it doesn’t matter if I ruin the shadows with mixing mediums as I can always buy another one!


  • Bourjois Healthy Mix Foundation in 52 Vanilla
  • Collection Lasting Perfection Concealer in 3 Warm Medium
  • Rimmel Stay Matte Powder in Transparent
  • MAC blush in Peaches
  • Sleek Face Contour Kit in Light
  • Phee’s Makeup Original Glow Highlight Powder


  • Absolute New York Eyeshadow Primer
  • Covershoot Cosmetics Neon Palette Eye Shadow
  • Phee’s Makeup Original Glow Highlight Powder – inner corner
  • MaxFactor False Lash Effect Mascara in Black


  • MAC Eye Brows in Fling
  • MAC Eyeshadow in Omega
  • ModelCo More Brows in Light/Medium


  • Illamasqua Underworld

I was a bit disappointed in these shadows and if you are a brights lover like me I’d say you’d probably be disappointed too. I’d still recommend them though, especially if you haven’t used many brights before and just want to have some makeup playtime.¬†If you want a palette you don’t mind ruining to create liners or to use wet in general, this is ideal!

xo Fleur xo


What’s in My Handbag

I put a poll on my Twitter (@floribundar) to decide what to post today and ‘What’s in my Handbag’ won! I love seeing posts like this, what people choose to carry with them every day, I think it’s fascinating. So here we go:

My handbag is from Primark last spring and was a birthday present from my OH. I love the shape, colour and it’s lasted so well.

This is everything I carry in my bag. I have three separate sets of keys: one for my house, one for my mums and my car keys. I find having them separate so convenient because it means if I’m going out for a run/cycle or walking to see my mum I only have to take the keys I need.

I also carry a packet of tissues, a print out of my car insurance details and a mini nail file.

I have a makeup bag that came with the My Little Box subscription I used to have. My purse that I probably need to update as it’s almost 10 years old from Accessorize. I’ve also started carrying around this little pack-up bag from Waitrose since the introduction of the 5p bag charge – it’s really light and has saved me a lot of 5p’s!

As I walk to work I also carry a pair of sunglasses because you never know when the sun is suddenly going to be really bright in the UK! These are from Primark and were about ¬£3 so I don’t mind if they get damaged constantly living in my bag…

I started carrying a makeup pouch because my handbag lipstick collection was getting out of hand! This way they stay together, their lids don’t fall off and they stay clean. Inside I have my ‘I’d rather be a mermaid’ mini mirror that was an awesome Christmas present and a couple of hair grips. I also usually have a pack of face blotting papers from Muji but I’ve currently run out.

Then clockwise from the top left I have: Revlon Just Bitten Kissable Balm Stain in Lovesick, Chanel Rouge Coco in 06 Egerie, MAC Frost lipstick in New York Apple, Korres Mandarin Lip Butter Stick, 17 Supreme Shine Lipstick in Hot Flash, a mini L’Occitane 20% shea hand cream and MAC Viva Glam Rihanna.


 Lipsticks swatched L-R: Revlon Just Bitten Kissable Balm Stain in Lovesick, Chanel Rouge Coco in 06 Egerie, MAC Frost lipstick in New York Apple, 17 Supreme Shine Lipstick in Hot Flash and MAC Viva Glam Rihanna. It’s a slightly random selection of shades but all ones I’m completely obsessed with.

I hope you enjoyed seeing inside my handbag – I like to think it’s quite a practical selection. I’ve always liked the statistic I read in a magazine that the average no. of lipsticks a woman owns is 7 and I’ve got 5 in my handbag lol!

xo Fleur xo



10 things I just don’t get the hype about…

Recently several things have happened that made me feel like the only person in the world who wasn’t excited. Sooo, I thought it would be interesting to talk about 10 things I don’t get the hype about. Let me know if you agree with any? Or do you hate me now? Are there things that everyone seems obsessed with that you don’t get?

1. Harry Potter¬†– I’m going to start with probably the most controversial. I loved the first book and¬†largely enjoyed up to the fourth book but after that I read them just to know the story. I think for me I had already moved onto adult literature and more importantly adult fantasy by the time I got around to reading Harry Potter. I’m not going to say any more because I know this is a touchy subject and I don’t want to offend anyone (more than I already have).

2. Finding Nemo (and Finding Dory)¬†– this is for the massively personal reason that Finding Nemo gave me the worst nightmares I’d had in a long while. Honestly, they were worse than the Blair Witch Project nightmares. The ‘fun’ element really didn’t shine through for me, I refuse to watch Finding Nemo and I will probably never watch Finding Dory.

3.¬†Game of Thrones¬†– okay, I think that maybe if I watched the tv show I would feel differently about this. I’ve just read the books though and oh myyyy, they’re pretty dull… I’ve read four of the books, they aren’t terrible but they’re really not going to be favourite of mine.

4. Beyonce¬†– sure I used to love her music back in the 2000’s but recently I find I can’t even listen to her. I will actively switch off the radio when her songs come on. I’m sorry… It’s not the lyrics, it’s not her, it’s purely the actual music – I can’t listen to it.

5. Breaking Bad¬†– I’ll admit I haven’t quite reached the end of this series, I’ve been a few episodes off finishing it for over a year now but I’m pretty sure my opinion still counts. Sure, I can see that this was filmed, acted and produced so well but honestly I wasn’t into it. I find anything where I hate every single character difficult and I think that was one of my main issues with it. I don’t understand why people are completely obsessed. I wouldn’t have watched as far as I did if my bf hadn’t been so excited for me to watch it.

6. Pumpkin Spiced Lattes¬†– on a slightly lighter noteūüėČ I tried one of these for the first time last year and it was a terrible experience. Sure, it tasted alright but I actually had to go and lie down outside in a public park because I was borderline about to blackout. The amount of sugar that hit my bloodstream was insane. Obviously that doesn’t happen to most people! If it had been the most delicious drink ever I wouldn’t have minded but it really wasn’t…

7. Zumba¬†– everyone I talk to about this just says ‘well clearly you had a bad teacher’ but that just isn’t the case. I love dancing, I love exercise, at uni I did Dancercise which was like a circuits class but each move was a dance one (if that makes sense) I also did street dance, salsa, ballet and modern. I grew up going to dance class every week. To me Zumba fell in the line between a rubbish dance class and a terrible exercise class. The point at which I decided I really didn’t like it was when the stretches were incorporated into a little dance routine meaning you had so little time for each stretch… If you love it, great! It’s just not for me.

8.¬†Bath Bombs¬†– I want to love these and sure they’re kind of fun but I just don’t see the point. It probably doesn’t help that I very rarely have baths (yeah yeah I’m a gross unwashed human I know :P). The price is potentially the main problem plus they’re not exciting enough for me and I love showers too much…

9. Nando’s¬†– sure, it probably doesn’t help that I’m a veggie but I didn’t get Nando’s for quite a while before¬†that. People are full on obsessed and so excited to go to Nando’s and I don’t understand why. I guess it’s great if you just want a slab of chicken but… Can someone explain the appeal?

10. Michelin Starred Restaurants¬†– I’ll admit straight away that I’m pretty sure I’ve never been to one but that doesn’t mean my reasoning isn’t valid. I have a pretty tiny disposable income each month. I don’t want to spend that entire amount (or more?!) on one meal! Also, as beautifully presented and delicious as it might be I feel like I’d probably still feel hungry afterwards… I have friends who rave about all the Michelin starred restaurants they’ve been to but *shrugs*.

Hopefully I haven’t offended you all! I’m pretty ambivalent about most things but these¬†just get my goatūüėČ Love you all even if you love all these things!

xo Fleur xo